Yeah I want to give myself some time to get the feel for the bike for sure, she has been a passenger before so she knows how to be a passenger and how to dress.Yes. First thing is for you to get used to riding your new machine by yourself, first. After you've got it down-pat and you know how it feels to operate with just yourself on it, then you can bring along a passenger. This is important. If it takes a few extra weeks before her riding with you, so be it.
If she's never been a passenger before on a bike take a couple of minutes and give her the boring yet necessary basics: How to get on/off, where to place her feet, how to lean with you, etc. Also how to dress.
For you, when moving at slow-to-no speeds you'll feel it being heavier so be aware of that. You'll find it may take an extra effort to keep it upright if you're stopping when the road is slanted to one side. Once moving it'll be fine. It may take a bit extra to accelerate/slow down or it may not depending on her size.
I once knew a gal that was 4'10" (maybe), 95lbs (maybe) soaking wet and even my 750 didn't know she was there. But until you get her on and feel the difference in how it handles there's not much more to tell you.
Great tips, especially like the shoulder rub one!My oldest daughter would ride with me quite often in the past, but as she went off to college 6 years ago, that fell by the wayside. now current GF loves to ride with me. She is about 160, but knows how to be an excellent passenger. (and believe me - there are good passengers and bad passengers). Outside of the braking, I really do not know she is back there. Even tho I knew she was a veteran passenger, I still went over the rules I tell anyone that I give a ride to. (note - we do not use a comm-headset)
1. get on/off the left side of bike, and only when I give you the thumbs up
2. do not move around in the seat when I am doing slow maneuvers; it's OK to adjust yourself in the seat when I'm at speed. but give me a double tap on back first so I know
3. lean with me in the curves
4. if you need to talk to me (lean forward to do so) just tap my shoulder twice
5. be a 2nd set of eyes for deer, etc for me. 2 sets of eyes are better than 1. If you see anything that you think I need to see, tap me several times on shoulder (on same side that i need to look) and point. I will find your point
6. I go over with her what everything is on the bike, so she knows what I am doing when she sees my hands and feet at work. just helps her prep better for changes in the ride
7. a small shoulder rub every 50 miles or so is mandatory LOL
real life - first time out take her to the nearest parking lot and practice slow maneuvers with her on bike. Get her use to this. Get a bit up to speed and practice hard braking so you both know what to expect when it has to happen. Then first road trip out, stay on secondary roads that are easy to navigate (minimal stop-lights and stop signs. lower traffic if possible). Allow her to get her confidence up and enjoy the ride for what it is! don't go out on a 2hour ride first time out. keep it to 30mins max and check if she wants to go more. Always communicate! work out your taps and hand signals if you do not have a comm-set. If I'm about to hit a bumpy area in road (transition from road to bridge and back) I double tap her left leg for example.
you will find a few more signals, etc that work for you as you go along
That's kind of the approach I was thinking of. My biggest fear is low speed maneuvers and dropping the bike with her on it.Yep. Like bearslayer said, get some more solo time. Once you feel ready, find an empty mall parking lot with plenty of open space and practice with her on the back. After a few practice runs, your anxiety should float away.